Breakups dating again
That I could “get back out there” and make the most of my new found single status, and better still, that this would be fun and all it meant was opening myself up to new opportunities. The week that I made the decision to get back out there was the week that I felt in complete disarray and simply used the idea of dating as a distraction because I thought, well, that is what I do.
So I hit the town, and before I even began to unleash myself to the male species, I felt a massive sense of underwhelm. It wasn’t my ex-boyfriend, it wasn’t a man in general, and it wasn’t a lack of confidence or assurance. So, the following week, here is what I did instead: Lack of respect and lack of being heard were two major factors.
I wanted to be respected as an individual, so being an individual is what I needed to focus on.
The whole time that my relationship was causing me stress, I hated the way it distracted my focus from the things that really mattered—building my business, sleeping, indulging in my passion for music, and eating properly as examples.
When I listened to my intuition, I discovered that I didn’t actually want to be out hitting up the town; I wanted to spend some quiet time inside and alone, reconnecting, being good to myself, and getting clarity on what I really want.
People say that you shouldn’t spend time inside wallowing, but I think there is a definite need to spend this quality time alone before you even start thinking about dating.
When someone who we’ve been close to suddenly steps out of our lives, it can leave a huge emotional void.
“Don’t let past relationships ruin your future happiness.Scars remind us of where we’ve been, not where we are going.” ~Unknown I believe that the breakdown of relationships can lead to some of the most powerful lessons we learn in life.So it was important that I acknowledged that those were the things I needed to bring back into balance as priorities before someone else could even enter the picture.I did this by meditating, reading, and opening myself back up to spiritual teachers.
Baths, candles, shopping, working out, eating well, sleeping, pampering—because although the main thing is to feel good on the inside, it certainly doesn’t hurt to feel great on the outside too!I also made time to work on my new business with a refreshed mindset.