Dating an emotinal person
Ever since I reported on the high suicide rate of Asian American students, I’ve been thinking of writing something for them that addresses cultural conditioning.
Here is what I have observed from my own experience and coming from a first-generation asian immigrant family: Up until a few years ago, I would get into fights with my mother whenever she starts to “talk trash.” What I mean by “talking trash” is making condescending statements or saying things to elicit guilt in other people or being very negative or wallowing in self-pity.
I’m not going to lie and say that my emotionally and mental well-being has completely recovered from the different things I had endured with my mother when I was a little girl.
To this day I still work on my mental conditioning and internal messages on a daily basis – so we’re talking about 30+ years and counting.
She knows how to push my buttons, and I let her push my buttons.
But each day, I get a little better and I unlearn a little bit of the cruel messages I had learned to believe about who I am. This post is, in many ways, part of a long journey of me writing a book that I’ve wanted to write for 9 years but wasn’t ready to write it or knew who I was writing it for. Sunday, Omar Mateen dialed Orlando’s 911 service to alert the dispatcher to the carnage unfolding at one of the city’s most popular gay bars.