Dating at a young age
They want someone who loves God, who they can debate with, who will be a good provider, who will be good to them, who wants to have a close relationship, who doesn’t believe in divorce, who does believe in family.And if your kids aren’t teens yet, read on, because you have to start these things when they’re young if they’re going to be effective later!You can’t wait until they hit puberty and then start lecturing them on how dating is counterproductive and can be harmful. Otherwise you’ll just end up getting into a fight about it.In fact, perhaps even because you seriously love each other.All those legitimate feelings have nowhere to go, because you can’t marry yet. When you date a lot, you often leave same-sex friendships by the wayside, and these are the years that you need to learn how to be a good friend. Similarly, if you date a lot, you may decline other important things, like going on missions trips, or taking jobs, or doing some ministry you might love, because the person you’re dating isn’t involved. We can discuss more in the comments, if you’d like, but I frequently get moms “in real life” asking how I got my girls to agree not to date, and so I’d like to share it with you moms “in cyber space”.Your kids likely have friends who all want to date, and it’s very hard to go against the tide unless you’ve been brought up to believe that that’s what you would do.
I always talk to my girls about how their aim should be to find someone to marry.
And frequently, when we’re talking, we talk about what sort of person is important.