Dating recently divorced


09-Jan-2015 19:28

Dear Too, I applaud that you want to focus on your children and not make them spectators to your serially monogamous parade.

I think that when parents split, children should only get to know significant others when they are truly significant.

Instead you found that by nature you’re less interested in variety than in harmony.

You found someone you really like, and even though apparently you have never made declarations about the future or fidelity, you feel you would be cheating if you started exploring how compatible you are with this new woman who’s caught your eye.

So to answer your question, what you do is have a long overdue talk about where the two of you are in this relationship, and explain that you don’t want to be exclusive.

My dilemma is that I really like the person I’m dating, but I recently met someone else who interests me.

Dear Prudence, After a decade in a tough marriage, I’m a recently divorced man.

When we separated my ex and I agreed we would see other people, and I dated several women casually.

Because I plan to be serially monogamous indefinitely, I need to figure this out now.

How do I try out a new relationship while gently easing out of my old one, without crossing cheating boundaries and maligning my good name?

Over time, one of those became more serious, to the point where we have been dating for almost a year and are now essentially exclusive. I want to focus on my young kids and prefer to separate my “kid time,” which I love, from my adult “dating time,” which is also great.

I envision that for the rest of my life there may be a series of girlfriends.