Dating someone in the raf advice for dating older man
Supporting soldiers deployed in Afghanistan, Iraq and all over the world, our primary aim is to boost the morale of serving members of the Army, Navy and RAF at home and abroad to actively engage the civilian population with those bravely fighting on our behalf....I am terrified, either way we will probably end up living on base, if we can't live together because we aren't married then we would get married.I have read so many different things online about what it's like for a wife living on camp and mostly it's bad things, I really don't want to offend anyone, but I have read things that say you have to act a certain way to fit in, that new wives are never welcome, and so much more.With regards to living in quarters together when not married the answer I'm afraid is no, people do find ways around this when there is a child however but tbh it's best to be upfront and honest.With regards to what camp life is like it varies from camp to camp but I think a lot of it is what you make of it too.I hope I can find someone here that can answer this question for me, I have looked online and I can not find a no or a yes.My partner who was previously in the army for 8 years has just signed up for the RAF, (long story short, he doesn't cope well with civilian life and that's why he has rejoined the forces), our relationship had only just begun as he was in his final 3months of the army so I didn't really know anything about army life or rules etc, we currently own a home together, have a child but we aren't married.
My concerns are that we do not live any where near any raf bases, and if we sold the house and brought one closer to where ever he was to be based then what's to say he wouldn't be moved within a year - 3 years and we would have to do it all again.
Like I said we aren't married but we do have a child together, is there anyway we could live together on base? Obviously I have so many questions that no one else, apart from a raf wife, could answer?
I have lived on 2 different camps and although it can be ****** (tbh only to be expected when you get a lot of women together) the community spirit is fantastic and something I actually miss sometimes, we bought a house last summer and moved off camp my husband still lives on camp Monday to Friday and comes home at weekends (this was done purely for stability for my son who starts school in September) If I can be of any help or you have any other questions just ask I can understand your nerves it is a big move, we had no children when we got married and I was so nervous as was moving about 4 hours away from my family I was 21 at the time and it was such a big step but I can honestly say I would not change it for the world I have made some good friends who I am still in contact with, but obviously as people come and go due to the nature of camp life, postings and stuff people are generally very friendly as everyone has been in the same position at some point, and the support when partners are OOA is brilliant on camp as pretty much everyone has been through it.
The ways around it involve being dishonest and deceitful and are not something I would recommend tbh, your partner would have to say that he is a single dad to enable him to get the house and then you would move in unofficially and this would be hard to get away with if the quarter I'd behind the wire as all adults need a pass to be on camp and you wouldn't be able to get a permanent one if you don't live on camp. Oh well we don't want to be dishonest or anything like that, I just didn't know if there were any exception for when you have children out of wedlock.
I have known have people who have done this but then got caught and let's just say it didn't go down well. Yes he's due to start training for a fire fighter (sorry I do not know the official title) Looks like I had best start planning a wedding obviously both of us have no problem being married, we are in this for life, it's just never been anything we have 'needed', it's not that we don't want to, just wouldn't of made any difference to our lives.Now we have a perfect reason I believe it's 12 or 14 weeks basic and then another 2 weeks key skills, so not to long.