Dating someone with hpv
Woman C: I pretty much didn't have sex for a year afterward. Not having a regular partner, this often means long dry spells. I expect it'd be a different case if I did get outbreaks from time to time though. Previously, I'd mostly had casual sexual relationships.That was the first moment I thought that I might have a normal life. Firstly, it was painful and gross, and then I was worried about the implications it'd have on my then-relationship and potential future relationships. And I felt incredibly stupid and ashamed, like I could have avoided it if I had just been more careful and, oh, I dunno, refused oral sex from my then-boyfriend whenever he had even the slightest hint of a cold sore. I've always practiced safe sex, so it felt really unfair, aside from anything else.But then again, herpes is tricky because you can pass it on without any apparent symptoms. And how would you say it has affected your sex life since? Because I have the oral strain on my genitals, it's nearly impossible to transmit, especially since I can't handle hormonal birth control and therefore have to use condoms every time anyway.Usually it's an ingrown but you can never be too sure. Woman B: It had no impact whatsoever on my sex life with the boyfriend who gave it to me, because he already had it. And while I had medication for outbreaks on hand, I have not had an outbreak since my initial one.As for sex with my current boyfriend, it hasn't affected us either — except now I take Valaciclovir, an antiviral drug used to manage herpes, to reduce the likelihood that I'll pass it onto him as he doesn't have the virus.
The virus itself is gone, but I still have the lesions on my cervix, which I have to have regularly checked. How did you feel when you first found out you had contracted it? I was lucky that I was living at the time with my best friend. Got the all-clear on the virus in late 2013, but have still had bad pap results.I had maybe two outbreaks after the initial one, so sex was off the table for those weeks, but it's been dormant for years.Sometimes, when I get a sketchy ingrown hair on my bikini line, I'll hold off on sex until I can figure out if it's a sore or an ingrown.
But I was sure I would never have sex again, that no one would ever love me again — it was very, very hard for me at 19.
I told her what was happening and she covered for me at our mutual workplace for a few days while I watched with ice on my crotch, and was just an essential lifeline.