Dating two men at a time
The guilt may be your conscience speaking; it's a voice worth heeding.While it's possible to consider two men at once, it's not advisable for the reasons you've already raised: It's difficult to do it in a way that's honoring to them, which dings your reputation and leaves you feeling guilty. You've said it might be too early in the relationships to have to choose, and I suspect you're right. I have fun with both of them, and they both show signs of being a godly husband.I feel guilty going out with both of them at the same time, though.As you're finding, it complicates things to try and grow in friendship toward marriage with two men at one time.You make the work of discerning a man's character and commitment to Christ more difficult by entertaining the possibility of two men at once.I believe wisdom involves focusing on one man at a time. If you're thinking of having dinner with guy A on Friday, telling him you love him, and kissing him passionately before saying goodnight, and then doing all that again with guy B on Saturday, I'd say you're in for a heap of trouble. Remember that before they're a potential husband, they're your brother in Christ.
Rarely does it happen that two men pursue with equal interest and intentionality, stirring in a woman an equal response and potential for love and marriage.
What's more likely is that as you get to know these men as friends, one will emerge as the man you're more drawn to (or possibly you'll realize neither is a good fit for marriage).
Though it may come to disappointing one by choosing the other, that is the nature of settling down.
Marriage means saying "yes" to one man for life and "no" to all the rest.
I know it might be too early in the relationships, but should I choose one guy at this point?
Would it be wise for me to date two people at once? This question comes frequently, both in a church setting like yours, as well as in the context of online dating sites.