Does bible say dating relationships
After all, seems to want most of us to be married (Genesis ; Proverbs ; 1 Corinthians 7:2, 9). The reality is that good, Christ-exalting relationships very often fail before the ceremony, never to be recovered romantically.The pain cuts deeper and lingers longer than most pain young people have felt in their lives. It’s one of the hardest things for me to write or speak about: the pain of intimacy that fell short of matrimony.The wiring in most of us has us longing for the wedding day.We’re looking, sometimes it feels frantically, for love, for affection and security and companionship and commitment and intimacy and help. Now, you’re back at square one in the quest for marriage, and it feels lonelier than square one, and further from the altar, because of all you’ve spent and lost.No one begins dating someone hoping to break it off someday.
Maybe you were convinced it needed to end, but knew how hard it would be to tell them. Dating that dives in too quickly or dumps too carelessly does not reflect God’s intention.
This doesn’t mean every dating relationship should end in marriage, but it does mean breakups will hurt.
Breakups in the church are painful and uncomfortable, and many of us have or will walk this dark and lonely road. God engineered romance to express itself in fidelity and loyalty — in oneness (Genesis ; Matthew 19:9; 1 Corinthians 7:2–13).
So here are nine lessons for building hope and loving others when Christians end a not-yet marriage. Maybe you didn’t see it coming, and the other person suddenly wants out. Without the ceremony and covenant, it’s a divorce, but it can feel like it. Because dating is only a means to marriage, God’s design for our marriages speaks to his design for our dating relationships.
This doesn’t mean you have to be ruined by every breakup, but there should be a sense that this isn’t right — it’s not how it’s supposed to be. God needs to show some of us the gravity of failed relationships because of what they wrongly suggest about him and his love for the church.
Knowing and embracing God’s design for permanence in marriage and dating will help us feel appropriately, but it will also help us take healthy next steps in our pursuit of marriage.