Funny first email online dating examples
Don’t assume she’ll say yes to a date by asking something like “I saw you enjoy dining out. Invest fifteen minutes coming up with a list of questions, then sit back and reap the rewards.
But first, there’s one important question to consider – do you invest 15-20 minutes writing one custom message, painstakingly crafted to include specific details mined from her profile?
Or do you go the “mass appeal” route, and fire off the same message to 15-20 women in that same amount of time? You spend 20 minutes composing The Perfect Message. The point is, that’s 20 minutes of your life you’ll never get back.
In theory, online dating should be easy – browse through a catalog of photos and profiles, click on who you like, send a message and boom – start picking an outfit for your first date. Now on to the hard part…Time to start messaging some women.
Let’s assume the initial hurdles standing between you and meeting the next Love of Your Life (or Your Night) online have been cleared – you’ve chosen a dating site, written an engaging profile, and selected the perfect profile picture.
You’ve read her profile, Googled that author she mentioned four times, and managed to tactfully point out your similarities without sounding desperate. According to Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, users on his site exchange about 4 million messages – a day. In his book, ‘Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No One’s Looking’, Rudder weighs in on whether a canned message actually works, or if women see through that BS in an instant.
You may get a response, you may not – and there’s a lot of reasons for a lack of responses. Maybe she’s seeing where things go with a guy who got there first. That’s roughly 166,666 messages being sent every hour – one of which was yours. Let’s push the odds of meeting someone back in your favor. In a nutshell, he said the copy/paste strategy is 25% less effective in terms of response rate, when you compare the effort you put in to the results you get back.