Gay dating advice first date
Know What You Want to Know This is particularly important for the first few dates. If you want this (or any potential relationship) to work, you need a general idea of what you want out of it. Make Sure You’ve Discussed HIV and Other STI Statuses With so many gay newcomers, many have no clue what the AIDS epidemic was like.And because of that, HIV (and other STI) concerns seem to have gotten lax.For others, it’s physical attraction that leads to a blissful one-night stand.Some have lovers as close as friends and friends as close as lovers, others keep multiple partners in a consensual way, and others are looking for life-long monogamy. The thing about wanting a future together with someone is knowing what kind of future you actually want. Make sure to have these answers generally prepared in your head so you don’t end up sounding rude when they come out of your mouth, such as putting down monogamy or polyamory when he himself is one of these things. Put the Tough Stuff on the Table If you don’t want to ever do the monogamy thing or know you live with HIV, it’s pretty important to let someone know about those things sooner rather than later.
Sure, there are medications now to help prevent the spread of HIV and help men with HIV live very long, full lives.However, just because it’s more combatable doesn’t mean it’s okay to not even bother knowing or disclosing your status.