How to play the game of dating
Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. Men play out unconscious and conscious games which create a maddening push-pull with your heart. Men fear being overwhelmed and taken over in an all-consuming relationship void of any video games, sporting events or nights out with the guys.How could he disappear after he was so totally into me? Understanding‘deadly dating patterns’ — Sam Keen In the just released paperback version of “Love in 90 Days,” I devote a new chapter to the 16 most common Men’s Deadly Dating Patterns based on personality types. That’s why dating and relationships can be so confusing and frustrating. Truth is, men are at least as hard to figure out as women.Some of them are much more ingrained and difficult for the guy to overcome than others.
Fortunately, I’ve logged many therapy hours listening to men as they’ve opened up and explored their deepest needs and fears.
Who hasn’t fallen for that grand opening game, where they lure us with intoxicating conversations, exciting fun-filled dates, a single perfect rose, delicious kisses and more?
They tease us with clever poems, daily texts and calls, only to turn around in the blink of an eye and completely disappear or disappoint us.
Their behavior can be confusing, frustrating and maddening.
The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away. The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship.