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10-Aug-2015 15:47

The only way to get rid of it is to ignore it, and every time you break traditional gender roles you're helping. My flatmate and I are constantly encouraging each other to be more assertive or proactive ("BE SASSY! It's so easy to sit around and wait for something to happen, but it's also boring.Confidence doesn’t just manifest from nowhere, either; people with confidence also possess a sense of self — moreover, one that they take pride in." It's really hot.Asking someone out, or purposefully flirting, is inherently flattering— without have to lay on cheesy compliments. A University of California San Francisco conducted by Shari Dworkin study found that only 25 percent of women aged 18 to 24 made the first move but "72 percent of men are as sick of the status quo as a lot of women are and would love women to be the first to initiate sex", according to expert Tracey Cox.Here are eight reasons why you should make the first move, ladies: Like I said, it's time.There's no reason to think men would have a better handle on it than we do, and it takes a lot of guts, so they shouldn't be constantly having to be putting themselves out there.A new survey of over 2,000 female participants between the ages of 18 and 40 by pharmaceutical company Merck found that less than 1 in 10 women make the first move. Well, as Sean Donnelly wrote in Elite Daily: "Maybe you stick to the old-fashioned route; maybe you are scared of rejection; maybe you simply do not know how to approach a man. We, too, hate rejection and embarrassment, and some of us have no clue how to approach women." Now, I'm not wild with saying "welcome to man's world", implying god, it's so hard to be a man and have everyone take what you say seriously and let you take up as much physical and emotional space as you want in this world all the time. It's unfair that in the old-fashioned (and still too current) hetero dating world it's all on them to take the initiative. In fact it was sort of a rule— I was shamelessly, enthusiastically flirty (or at least I was in my head), but would never actually go for it. With the huge success of Bumble, a Tinder-like dating app where women have to message their match first, aren't we at a point where more women should be comfortable making the first move?

When you show someone you're interested in them (as long as they're not massively bigheaded already) it's going to warm you to them. Get used to asking a guy out for coffee and it may boost your confidence to go for more! So many of the dating dynamics we have are rooted in very, very sexist gender roles.

Don't think of it as innocuous or old fashioned if you wait for a guy to ask you out— you need to remember it's a throwback to when sexism was even more extreme and accepted.