Talking vs dating
First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner.
Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage.
Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.
If they find this hard to do, they must take steps to ensure that Christ will always be honored during their time together and that sin is never given a chance to take hold of their relationship.
Just as with the courting couple, the parents of the dating couple should be involved in the relationship, getting to know their child’s companion and being a source of wise and discerning advice and guidance for both of them.
Courtship advocates claim that courtship allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. For daters, spending time alone with a member of the opposite sex whom we find attractive can present temptations that can be very hard to resist.
The Christian dating couple must have boundaries in place and be committed to not crossing them.