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But Vondie Lozano, licensed marriage and family therapist, has some other not-so-obvious flags to add to the list.
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The humor is used to distract.” Marital status: “separated”: This one isn’t necessarily a deal breaker.
But Dan Neuharth, licensed marriage and family therapist, says “you need to find out just how separated he is.
He may be legitimately finished with his marriage emotionally, but the paperwork isn't final. They may be on a trial separation, seeking variety, or way too fresh from a bad relationship to date seriously.” And if the person is still talking about their ex, that’s a red flag. Another one should be added: When a woman says her children come first, over everything else. However, to me, it means I am going to get stood up a lot; that when I am with someone they aren’t going to give me their undivided attention when we aren’t with her kids; and that a woman isn’t really interested in a relationship and is hiding behind her kids.
Also avoid people that disclose too much, whether it’s a recent staph infection, bankruptcy or bad breakup.
And Mc Dermott recommends steering clear of people who don’t have kids but use undue space in their profile soliciting information about the age and sex of your children.
So improve your chance of success by keeping an eye out for the following red flags as you sort through potential date’s profiles: Photos: Photos can tell you a lot about a potential date.No photo, or a grainy, out-of-focus or outdated photo, are a sign that the person probably has something to hide, or else is not really serious about the dating process.