The 36 questions were published in a study by psychologist Arthur Aron called 'The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness'. He tested the theory that it's possible to make two people fall in love by getting them to share intimate thoughts and memories. The last, terrifying, element of Aron's experiment requires the two participants to stare into each other's eyes for four minutes. So grab your potential love interest - or any willing particpant (that's half the battle, says Catron, just trying the experiment signals that you're open to falling in love) and get questioning. The 36 questions which can make you 'fall in love with anyone': Set One 1. ' The idea is to foster the atmosphere of mutual vulnerability and intimacy that a romantic relationship thrives on. Albeit by revealing to each other your deepest, darkest thoughts - the sort it usually takes a few months to admit (if ever). Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living?
Aron's questions, which first appeared in 1997, are experiencing a bounce in popularity following an article in the New York Times by university professor Mandy Len Catron. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? To prove this, he persuaded 52 sets of male and female strangers and 19 sets of female strangers to try it. Catron describes it thus: "I’ve skied steep slopes and hung from a rock face by a short length of rope, but staring into someone’s eyes for four silent minutes was one of the more thrilling and terrifying experiences of my life". Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Two of the participants entered a lab via separate doors, before sitting opposite one another and answering his series of ever-more personal and probing questions. Two of them got married (and they invited the whole lab to the ceremony).
'Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? ' and 'How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?