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Be prepared: you never know when or where you're going to come across a man you want to date. You need to see someone enough times to get the chemical attraction going between you. He will fall in love with the way that makes him feel.Make sure your hair and nails are always done, your clothes stylish. Ask him about his job, his friends, his family, his dreams. A girl who treats a guy well can have her pick of men.Here are some of his tips for finding – and keeping – The One. Do you want looks, wealth, a young toned Olympian or a man with a Chelsea townhouse? THE MORNING AFTERLavak tells me: "Men have confidence issues too and if he doesn't hear from you after a date he'll think you're not interested.Whatever it is you can find it more easily if you hang out in places where your "type" does. So don't wait for him to call, let him know you had a great time."Suggest another date, don't play it cool.His findings have been distilled into a tome titled Own That Guy In 60 Days and include putting the man you want on a pedestal and focusing all your attention on him.Oh and have sex with him on the first date too."I hadn't been single since I was about 20," Lavak tells me on the phone from his home in London.He grew up in New York before studying psychology at the London School of Economics and after a successful career in international finance now runs a business consultancy in the City."Friends told me to make an effort – so I did but with the advent of technology and internet dating the dating scene was unrecognisable from what I'd known before."Some girls seemed adept at the whole dating game and had men falling in love with them.
BE BRAVERemember that you ladies can be intimidating and men can be timid. Put him on a pedestal and tell him that he's the best, that nobody understands you like he does, that he is unique. So he doesn't want to be with anyone else, why would he?
So don't sit around and wait for men to come to you. Lavak adds: "There isn't a single guy I know who wouldn't be absolutely blown away if a girl walked up to him out of the blue and introduced herself with a little compliment."SMILEA man will notice a woman who's laughing and smiling more than he'll rate a nice figure and glossy hair any day. "Own That Guy In 60 Days: A Practical Guide To Love For The 21st–Century Woman, by Blake Lavak is published by Durham Press and is available to buy from uk price £11.85.