When to become exclusive in dating
I understand why people I talk to look at me cross-eyed when I say that it’s not wrong for the person their dating to continue to be active online. While it may not seem kind, dating multiple people is one of the key benefits of online dating in my mind.You might have an amazing date only to see the person is “Online Now” when you get home. Because of that, my opinion is that until you agree to enter an exclusive relationship with one another, you should BOTH be looking to meet other people.I get quite a few emails from people struggling to handle the situation where the person they’re dating is still active online.I hear from more women on this topic and some of those women don’t always understand my position: that if they’re not in an “exclusive” relationship, I don’t think the man is doing anything wrong.” My point is that often you need to approach the situation with no assumptions and no attacks. It’s always sad when someone contacts me with one of these great emails they jumped all over the person they were dating and drove them away.Let me emphasize this before we begin: Being aggressive is generally a really bad idea!I get contacted by a lot of women who contact me they’ve verbally attacked the person they were dating over the issue of activity online.You can recover from this, but it’s is hard to do…so try to avoid putting yourself in a position where you need to recover!
I get some great emails from people that lay out their feelings, what they hope for, and describe how confusing things are for them. Instead they’re open, honest and they just want to understand.
A lot of times I want to say to these people, “You just need to forward this email to the guy you’re dating!